God’s Spirit is Grieved

My spirit is grieved today…

This is what the Holy Spirit has placed on my heart to write…

I’m talking to “Christians” those who say they are followers of Christ…

I’m going to be as real and descriptive as I possibly can because there are many who need to hear this…So get ready…put on your seatbelts and hang on…it’s going to be a bumpy ride…

Let me say right now this is not about whether divorce is right or wrong…It’s about what divorce does to families…and how it destroys lives.

I am saying this from personal experience not to cause condemnation but to tell you from my heart to yours, the deep, gut wrenching pain that comes from divorce!

Don’t stop reading…please read all the way to the end…it may not be you, but I guarantee, you know someone who is suffering from this demon…and it is a demon straight from the pit of hell…whether you believe or don’t it makes no difference…it is REAL!

And the worst part of it all is it what divorce does to children…

It causes insecurity, low self-esteem, and sickness. It causes mental and social and physical illness. Bed wetting, biting of finger-nails, hypertension, depression, trust issues…despairing of hope…fear of everything and everyone… and it sets the child up for failure in all relationships for the rest of their life.

I’m not saying there isn’t healing that can come but are you willing to take that chance? The healing will only come through the Blood of Jesus…nothing else works…you only fool yourself if you think otherwise. I’m telling you, the risk is too great!

To husbands and wives who divorce…

You may think that divorce is the answer and in some cases of extreme abuse, I’d say divorce is the answer.

God never intended for husbands and wives to divorce. The marriage ordained by God was symbolic of the marriage between Christ and His Bride, the Church. Jesus would never divorce his bride or abuse her.

But because of the HARDNESS of HEARTS Moses wrote a bill of divorcement…

Hardness of hearts…Pharaoh’s heart was hardened; look what it cost him.

There is a horrible cost that comes with divorce…not to mention the attorney fees that’s just money.

You become like the walking dead…

Sleep eludes you…food is a four letter word…you are literally torn in half…mentally insane…the war begins and it’s not just a war between you and your spouse…it is a demonic war and no one wins but Satan…

Not only are you torn in half…your children are ripped and dragged through the war with you…between you…the father pulls on one arm and the mother pulls on the other arm…and the splitting begins…

The devil is the master deceiver…He whispers in your ear…divorce is not so bad…it’ll be so much better when you’re out of this marriage with this lunatic…anger and hate take over and the person you vowed to love forever…you can’t stand to even look at them…you leave each other to fend for yourselves and the children pay the price of your decisions…

So you make it through the courts and now there’s child support to pay and visits for the children every other weekend…holidays are split up…grandparents are seen rarely…and enters the other girlfriend or boyfriend…with their children and issues…that opens a whole other story…

But it never ends….

It will be this way for the rest of your lives…

Unforgiveness destroys lives…

The aftermath of divorce is so much worse than the beginning…

People turn to alcohol, drugs, pills, therapy or they just sink into the bottomless pit of walking dead…Zombies…on the inside, anyway…Oh they put on a fake front in public but behind closed doors…they live with regret and unforgiveness…anger and pain.

I’ve gone through this…I know what I’m talking about…the only way I survived…I had to forgive…

Why is divorce so horrible…

It leaves it’s victims not really dead, but not living either…and you have to go on and still do your job…take care of the shattered family…converse with the enemy your broken spouse…FOREVER…

I did forgive and even though Jesus took the broken pieces of my life and helped me to begin again after years of struggling and trauma…there is still the scar where two had been one…but ripped apart…

Healing did come but only years after I was able to accept and forgive.

If you are thinking about divorce, if you are listening to the whispers of the devil and he’s saying, “Surely you won’t die…” You are being deceived just as Eve and Adam were…No you won’t die…not in the sense that you think…but it will kill your spouse and your children in way that you will never recover from…even when you forgive…because your family unit as you know it, will cease to exist…

If you are having problems in your marriage I beg you…do whatever you have to do to save your marriage … Go to God…get help from Him not from a source that tells you it’s OK…it will never be OK…

Yes my spirit is grieved but more than that the Holy Spirit is grieved…

Do Not Do what you are planning…God has so much more for you as husband and wife…Seek Him…and Forgive. Forgive your spouse and forgive yourself and set aside selfishness…

Father in the name of Jesus I pray for marriages today…I pray for forgiveness and restoration. I pray for holiness and repentance…Holy Spirit give men and women your power to overcome the enemy of their souls…I pray for the children that you will protect them and help their parents to realize the cost is to great…their lives, their children’s lives and future generations are counting on them to make the right decisions…Let men love their wives as you, Jesus love the Church and gave yourself for her…Let women respect their husbands and honor them…God I pray you will heal marriages today and do not let them be deceived, do let them be destroyed…In Your Mighty Name I pray Jesus…Amen and Amen….

–Marla Shaw O’Neill

Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Ephesians 5:22-33 New International Version (NIV)

 Jesus said, “Moses wrote this command only as a concession to your hardhearted ways. In the original creation, God made male and female to be together. Because of this, a man leaves father and mother, and in marriage he becomes one flesh with a woman—no longer two individuals, but forming a new unity. Because God created this organic union of the two sexes, no one should desecrate his art by cutting them apart.” Mark 10:5-9The Message (MSG)